4 diabetes beliefs that work against you

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What's up, everybody.

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Welcome back to a, another episode of healing in hindsight, your no, BS

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source for thriving with diabetes.

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If you don't know me, I'm Taylor, Daniele.

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I'm your host every time.

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So if you're new here, welcome.

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Glad to have you guys here today is going to be, I think an interesting subject.

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That I've seen kind of pop up in our community.

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And I am really interested in deep diving into this because as you guys know, I'm

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really keen on, mental health, spiritual health, as well as our physical health.

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And so dealing with things that are mind to battles when it comes to, this

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condition can really make a difference in how you treat yourself and how

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you take care of yourself, especially how you take care of your diabetes.

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So I really want to talk about, four beliefs that tend to

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hold you back as a diabetic.

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Now, the reason why I wanted to bring this up is because the

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problem is that negative thoughts.

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Have an impact.

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They, affect how you treat yourself, they affect how on top of your medication

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regimen or insulin regimen that you're on.

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They have effect on how you interact with people your doctors or medical

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team, or your friends and family who were involved in your diabetes

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care, all, all those kinds of things.

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So if you have kind of these negative thoughts or belief systems going on

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within yourself, it really can have a huge effect on, your journey in general.

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So the thing that I, I think we should all think about is, what

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is it that works best for you?

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And how can you adjust.

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Those moments where you're just so in your head about everything and,

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try to turn it into, I don't even want to say like, it has to be just

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positive, but just neutralizing, at least the negative thought.

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So that way you can move forward and not to be stuck.

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And this kind of, rough cycle of thinking so negatively about what

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you're experiencing with your diabetes.

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And I think what this can help do is just really give you some tools to combat.

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some of these beliefs and, these are pretty common ones too, I've got my notes

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here and I feel like it is important to remember how much mindset matters because.

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What you think is kind of what you do and on how you action things.

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Even if you don't say them, a lot of people think that well,

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because I didn't express that thought it doesn't have an impact.

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And that's honestly not true because what you continue to repeat in your

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mind, you start to produce in action.

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And so that's why you see a lot of the mindset stuff, creep up everywhere because

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there's, there's, some validity to it.

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If you put your mind to something, you can make things happen.

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Something that's very true.

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In my opinion.

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if you think so differently, I'd love to hear from you.

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Let me know.

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But I do feel like how we carry ourselves in our head reflects

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how we carry ourselves outward as well and how we treat ourselves.

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So with that being said, let's dive into these beliefs and see what

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we can do to kind of change it.

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Let's do it.

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You're listening to healing in hindsight your no BS source

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for thriving with Diabetes.

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What's up guys, I'm Taylor, Daniele, and it's my goal to help millennial

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diabetics like myself live an amazing life without your diagnosis

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getting in the way I get it.

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I was diagnosed back in 2015, with type two diabetes, and it was really

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hard to find people around my age to understand how to travel, socialize,

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or even have meaningful relationships.

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But I feel like with a focus on mindset, perspective, and nutrition

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together, we can take back our health.

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Consider this the red table talk, but for diabetics minus the entanglements.

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So let's do it.

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All right.

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So four beliefs that are working against you as a diabetic.

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Now I know that a lot of this is going to sound like really?

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Woo, woo.

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And stuff like that.

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But I, I want you guys to kind of hang in there with me on this because.

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Mindset shifts truly make a difference.

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And, after working with a past coach that did a deep dive into cognitive, disorders

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and things like that, I gained so much insight on how much, not only do we think,

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but like how our thoughts and beliefs come to be and the different types of cognitive

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distortions that I didn't really realize.

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Happened.

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think we went through 10.

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And so to realize that there's so many things in our minds that we

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try to piece together because your mind doesn't know how to fully

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separate a lot of different things.

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So when something happens and you don't have all the context we fill

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in the blanks, I think I can speak for myself when I definitely start

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filling in the blanks whenever I can't make sense of something, whenever

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something has happened and I haven't got any context or response on it.

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And so I start to make up all these different stories in my mind of

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what the possibilities could be, because until we actually have

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facts in context, all we can do is.

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Allow our minds to, to fill things in for us.

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And sometimes what we fill in the blanks for is not exactly accurate.

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So, we try to perceive things in a way that hopefully is.

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As much of an undistorted lens as possible, but we all know.

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And I talked about this back in season three, that beliefs are, things that

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we've come to know to be true either by what we've experienced, what

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we've seen, someone else experience or kind of a combination of both.

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And so that means that if those views or those actions were

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distorted themselves, then we could have distorted beliefs as well.

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It's very easy to have beliefs that work against you.

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I, I definitely feel like part of our humanity is trying to find

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a way in a balance to walk and be in truth as much as possible.

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Because we have so much information hitting us from all points.

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Our senses are constantly active and I feel like that's something

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that I'm trying to think about more.

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When is there ever a point where your senses are off?

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I've actually been really interested in trying like those

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sensory deprivation chambers.

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But I'm a little nervous too, because if you think about it, like being

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completely cut off from your senses, and you're kind of just left with your

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thoughts, and trying to understand how you, how much the world impacts you when

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all of your senses are so activated.

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It's kind of one of those things that's like really interesting.

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So the first belief that I want to dive into is being diabetic

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means that you can't enjoy things and like just absolute false.

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And I see this belief, plague people so much, especially

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people who are newly diagnosed.

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It's understandable.

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You have just been told that you have a condition that is, impacted by what you

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eat and how you take care of your body.

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And for some it's requiring you to put something in your body that you can no

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longer produce, or take medication to help your body utilize what it's producing.

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And so, people feel like they aren't allowed to do anything anymore.

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I can't eat the things that I want to do.

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I can't travel, I can't do rigorous activities or be an athlete or, be a

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model or, all of these different things.

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And it's simply just not true.

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To be very clear.

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It's okay.

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To be upset about your diagnosis field, which you feel I will

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tell you right now, none of us.

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And I mean, none of us who have been diagnosed have asked for this

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and if we get a hand it off and send it on its Merry way, we would.

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So absolutely.

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It's okay to feel grief.

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It's okay.

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To, mourn your previous life essentially where these were

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things that weren't top of mind.

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So that's okay.

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Please know, you can still enjoy life.

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You can still do things.

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You just have to go about it a little bit differently.

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I know a couple people, especially for my millennial folks and, and

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under who are able to drink and things like that parties and socializing and

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going out where some of the things.

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I know, I thought okay, I'm just gonna have to start saying no

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to everything because I don't want people to have to worry.

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I don't want to have to think about my medication.

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I don't want to have to think about what happens if I pass out all these things.

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It's it's tough, but now I recognize that I just have to

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go about it a different way.

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And I, talk about this in season three, as well, about how you can navigate

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different environments while still managing your diagnosis, because you

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shouldn't hold yourself back simply because you have to go about it.

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So, obviously some of our beliefs come from our environment.

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We're constantly consuming whether we realize it or not.

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And we take in so much, the people that we interact with social media

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podcast videos, all of these things are shooting at us information.

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And each of those interactions can, be a source of belief or information to aid

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to our belief when it's presented to us.

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So.

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In some environments, it almost feels like they're being forced on us.

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And I think of, media I think of diet culture I think of, kind of the body

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shaming and, and trying to, to feel good about, the skin that you're in.

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There's so much around that that's just forced on us in a

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way that we're not asking for.

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There's no way for us to truly.

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I'm seeing all these advertisements and things, we can, we can adjust

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some settings or whatever, but everywhere you look, there's

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something being advertised to you.

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And so it is trying to think about, how can you adjust your consumption or

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minimize, the level of information that you're receiving so that you're not.

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You're not constantly thinking about the thing that you don't want to think about.

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So what I mean is, like everybody says that losing weight is the answer

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to everything, which is belief.

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Number two, that we got to get rid of yes, unhealthy habits can wreak

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havoc on your body diabetic or not.

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We are all aware that unhealthy habits can, be really hard on your body.

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And that side effect could be weight gain, but I don't think

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that focusing on a weight is the answer to everything will be better.

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When I had doctor did Al come on as an endocrinologist who works with diabetics

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all the time and is trying to push for medical practitioners to think about like

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health at every size, the haze movement.

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And he talked about.

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Behaviors.

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We have to address behaviors, not you need to lose weight because the problem with

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thinking losing weight is going to answer.

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All of my problems is you may start to create behaviors that are just

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as unhealthy as the idea that if you just drop all the weight, it all go.

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And diabulimia is a real thing, right?

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Eating disorders are a real thing amongst the community.

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And usually it's those who are heavier, who have a higher likelihood

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to start to experience these type of things, because we're constantly

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being told we need to lose.

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Now I've, I've probably talked about my endocrinology story.

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So many times last season, but in short, my endocrinologist told me

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drop 40 pounds, take this medication that also focuses on weight loss.

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And once we get the weight off, I think we can take you off medication

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and you won't be type two anymore.

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I don't think I'd ever consider myself to be cured of diabetes

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because it's always going to be.

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A possibility for me, in my opinion one, one misstep in how I eat or whatever,

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and I can completely flare things up.

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And he even said himself that, if I don't take care of myself, when I am off or

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reversed my diabetes, then it's going to come back bigger, better and worse.

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And it sent me in a tailspin.

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It, it made me feel like I was back in high school again, trying to prove

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and be skinny for no reason, even though now I don't think I'm meant

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to be, now do I have some body goals?

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Do I have an idea of how I would like to feel first and the visual things.

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I think that's normal.

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I think that's human to, okay.

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It'd be nice if when I wore pants my stomach didn't.

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My pants rolled down, or when I wear leggings that it didn't

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roll, roll down every 10 seconds.

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And more and more is being done to provide clothing that fits all body types.

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So it makes it even easier to feel good about.

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Okay.

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I got a little bit of a stomach and my, desire to shape up is just simply

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that it's just, I'd like to shape up.

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That's it?

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It's not a hard press, like I have got to lose weight, I've got to lose weight.

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I've got to fit this size.

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No, I just, I know how I want to look and it's definitely not skinny.

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It's just in shape and healthy.

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And the shape that I see in my mind is still a shape that a lot

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of the world would deem fat, which is but you know, I can't change

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everybody's perspective in one night.

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So again, Believe number two, losing weight, solves everything.

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It does not.

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Okay.

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Think about behaviors.

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Think about what actions am I taking that are helping manage

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my condition or our history.

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So if that behavior is, I, we'll sit at a desk all day long, hell I got to that.

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I sit at right.

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And I reached for snacks, typically salty snacks, because I'm bored because

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I'm focused so much on what I'm doing.

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And I know I need to eat at some point to, keep my blood sugar

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stable, but it's easier for me to reach for a small snack and.

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Little bits at a time throughout the day, versus just stopping what I'm doing,

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stepping away from the computer and having a meal, a nutritious well-balanced meal.

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So things like that are what you want to tackle.

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For awhile, Struggled to drink water.

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That was a behavior of staying hydrated was something that I needed to work in.

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So think about what behaviors, are, are helping your body or might be hindering.

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And just by making those small changes, you'd be surprised

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how much things can change.

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So one of my behaviors is I don't keep a lot of snacks junk food.

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There we go.

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I don't keep a lot of junk food.

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Do I ask so that I can snack on the ass, typically fruit but, or nuts, but

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I don't keep a lot of chips and cookies and all these other kinds of things that

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are usually over-processed in the house.

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Do I have them sometimes?

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Sure.

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But once I've eaten them, if I do a grocery run where I allow myself those

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types of things, I tell myself once it's gone, it's gone and, I wait, probably

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two or three rounds of groceries before I'll add it again, because I understand

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that when it's in the house, I might inhale it and by doing so now when I had

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those things into my kitchen, I actually don't eat them as quickly as I used to.

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So Oreos used to be something huge for me, and I could easily

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eat half a pack in one sitting.

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Excuse me and I could easily finish a whole pack at one point, but now

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I'm like three or four and I'm good.

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So it's all about, dealing with the behaviors that are leading to potentially

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weight gain, that are leading to your numbers kind of getting crazy.

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Don't look at it from me.

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I just need to lose weight.

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What are the behaviors that need to change that are not helpful to you?

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So I'm curious to know what's, what's a belief that you have, or have been

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told about, your diabetes that is.

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Something that you had to work through or, what's one belief about diabetes

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and weight that you've been told that you're still struggling with and trying

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to determine what's best for you.

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I'd love for you to know, let me know in the comments, if you're watching

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and if you're listening, feel free to let me know in the rating section of

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whatever platform you're listening to.

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I I'd love to know some of the things that you guys have been told or thought

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because I think it's a discussion that we need to have on how we.

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Debunked some of the, those, so moving on to belief, number three, mindset

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shifts are a constant practice, right?

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I look at life kind of like a game and, and yes, I do enjoy

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shows movies and especially anime that take place in a game world.

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I think they always have such a deep lesson to give in that, but

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I think of life as a game because you're constantly leveling up.

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In my opinion, you are constantly seeing things in a way that is different

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or that is so I see life as a game and I feel like in life you overcome

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certain obstacles, test trials.

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But it doesn't necessarily mean that it goes away.

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I feel like you're constantly leveling up.

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So you're going to be tested in new ways.

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You're going to have different variations of the same test.

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I don't want to call it an issue, but at the same test that shows up

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and it's up to you to tackle it in a way that takes you to the next level.

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So for example, I, I had a really hard time.

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Dealing with certain foods being around me.

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And so my answer to that was get it out of the house.

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And then I got to a point where it was not in my house, but in someone else's

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house, like for example, my partners and that new test was my willpower to.

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Either enjoy it, cause there's nothing wrong with it, but don't go overboard.

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And then, at work anybody know about the potlucks and, and the constant

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snacks that are in the break rooms.

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All the, all of that to me are just opportunities of leveling up.

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And so the influence of culture is very strong, right?

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And we have to work diligently to understand ourselves

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better than everybody else.

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Because when you look around, someone is trying to tell you

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what you should do, right?

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So we have to build up our own mental fortitude to be able to

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tackle these new levels of new challenges, for all my gamers up there.

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Especially with open world concept games where there's a never ending sea of

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different quests and challenges to do.

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But every time you complete them, you gain more levels, you gain more

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experience points, you get more access to cool stuff, it doesn't stop at okay.

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You beat the game and you're done like a lot of those type of games.

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Open-world games.

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There's just always something to do.

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And that's literally Until we, go home to glory.

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It's, it's constant, no matter what age you are, like you're always

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going to come up against something.

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So, I think when we, deal with this type of setting where there's always

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something coming at us, practicing mindset and mindfulness things is constant.

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Knowing what's best for you.

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Over time.

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It gets easier to ignore things that are trying to steer you

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away from, from your own path.

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So that leads to belief number three, and this one is big for me because

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I had to work very hard to change this, but being on medication, Isabel.

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And that is one belief that I feel needs to change quite a bit.

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When I first started this as a blog, my goal was to share when I was

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going through and share how I was going to come off my medication and

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be done with diabetes completely.

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I don't think that that's a bad thing, but my mindset at the time.

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Was not in the proper place for that.

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My mindset was that being on this medication is terrible for me

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because Metformin over time is, is gonna, it can ruin my kidneys.

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And it doesn't change that that is factual.

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However, I should not be ashamed to utilize this medication in the short

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term to get me to where I need to be.

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I don't think medication is bad.

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I see medication.

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And I've said this before in the past too.

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They're like training.

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When you don't just immediately hop on a bicycle and take off, right?

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You start with training wheels, you don't immediately go to a job and

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you're thrown right into the work.

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Now, obviously Astrix on that because for people in the startup world, sometimes

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you are, but you get what I'm going at.

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Somebody trained you, somebody, even if it's not the most put together program,

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somebody is going to show you the ropes.

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To let you get your feet wet and let you understand.

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And then once you get more proficient in it, then they let you fly off the handle.

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It's the same thing with medication.

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I'm grateful for a medication.

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Medication allows us to do a lot and yes, are there a lot of things and

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chemicals and all these kinds of things that's being introduced to our bodies.

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That's hard on us that causes side effects.

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True.

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But I think that's where we have to find the balance of it's okay to use.

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These training wheels to get me to a place where I can stabilize on myself.

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And I think that's where a lot of people get stuck when they're,

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so anti-medication sometimes is they don't see the opportunity.

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That's there.

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Like it's teaching your body how to do what it's supposed to do now.

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Obviously for my insulin dependent people, that's a little bit different.

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And technology has caught up to allow it to be a bit easier, like

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with pumps and things like that.

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But for my medication based folks myself, the medication that I

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take helps my body to dump excess.

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And it helps my body to use the insulin that I am over

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making basically this point.

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So that way it can get used to again, so I can get more sensitive

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again, so I can minimize the amount of sugar that's in my system.

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So that way, again, I can be sensitive to insulin that my body is making.

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So I don't think that we should treat medication as bad.

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I do also feel like medical professionals have to be careful

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when they present medication.

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I've heard so many people who have shared stories about they

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were threatened with insulin.

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And I don't think that that is okay.

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I think how we phrase things is huge.

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So to say, Hey, so here's where your numbers are kind of at.

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I think it will be helpful.

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If we started you on a low dose or whatever dose of insulin, just to

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get your body back in rhythm with it.

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And then we can start to bring you off when things start to stabilize versus,

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if we can't get these numbers down, we're going to have to put you on insulin.

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That sounds like a threat.

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That sounds like a punishment.

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That sounds oh, you're being a bad person.

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So now I'm going to have to make you do this.

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Which of course, people start go running for the Hills or they end up back into

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the stage of insane dieting and, weight loss and all of these things that

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throws our body completely out of whack.

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So we have to be mindful about it.

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How we say these types of things.

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So if there's a by chance, any medical practitioner, nurse,

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whomever, please be careful about how you say stuff to people, right?

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Unless you know them that deeply, unless I go in and say, Hey doc,

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tell it to me straight don't you, ain't got to be, the bedside manner.

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You can miss me with it, whatever bedside manner.

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Hey, I think it might be helpful to introduce this

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and then we can work to this.

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And then go from there.

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It's a lot less of a blow than feeling like I just went to my doctor's

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office, got scolded punished, and now I'm grounded to using this medication

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until I can get my shit together.

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I don't think that's cool.

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So, medication is meant to be helpful and yes, I think we can all agree

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that the ideal goal is for it to not be term, if we can help it, obviously

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there's some conditions that it can't.

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We shouldn't see medication as something that is evil or

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unhelpful or as a punishment.

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It's, it's a tool, it's a resource, just like anything else to support you and your

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body until you are able to bring yourself to a place to deal with it yourself.

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So the last belief that I really just like.

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Can't stand.

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And I really, especially for newly diagnosed people, I want you to know

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that this is a specialty for you because it it's, it's, it's tough.

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You did not cause your diabetes.

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That is one belief that is holding our community hostage in such a terrible way.

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It will just never forget a medical practitioner saying this

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in a clubhouse room of, okay.

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Let's be honest.

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Type two is simply a series of bad decisions that somebody made

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and that's why they're there.

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And it is not to say that lifestyle doesn't play.

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But genetics can also play a role.

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There's, there's, there's so many different things and we're learning more

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and more about all these different types.

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And, even with type one lotta like the late onset is such an

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interesting thing where people are going through their entire childhoods

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into adulthood and suddenly their beta cells are just like, I'm out.

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Your pancreas says I ain't got any more.

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And people are being misdiagnosis as type two.

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Sometimes, it is really disheartening to hear people, especially those who

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are non-diabetic and you really don't have a clue about what this is like to

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say to somebody that you caused your diabetes, simply because you were fat.

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So wouldn't that mean that every person that is overweight should be diabetic,

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but there's plenty that aren't right.

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There's plenty of people who you know, especially if you're using the

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BMI chart are considered overweight and aren't at risk for types.

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You aren't at risk for heart disease.

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Aren't at risk for a lot of things.

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There are people who are, or bigger than me who are way healthier.

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And I think that's something that we have to start to realize is that

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there's way too many variations of people to make the call.

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That diabetes is something that you bring on yourself.

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I, I, I can't get with that.

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So if you've ever been told that diabetes is your fault, if you've ever been told

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that you caused it, that you ate so much sugar, that this is now what happens.

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Please don't it makes me so passionate to hear that because so many men and women

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are, are mentally spiraling out of control because they're, being told that, they got

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it from being lazy and eating bad foods.

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And you don't care about yourself.

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That, that one, that one gets me.

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If anything, if someone were to say to me today, you caused your diabetes.

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The only thing that I would say is okay, if that's the case, I feel like

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the only reason I caused my diabetes is because I live in a culture that

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tells me that I'm not good enough if I'm not skinny, sometimes white, sorry.

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Y'all but if I'm not skinny, white, and constantly starving

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myself in order to be active.

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That's why it happened because I'm trying to keep up with too

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many standards that were never designed for me in the first place.

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And so my habits, my eating, my workout is all out of sync with my

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body and I've stressed at the hell out.

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And I've binge eat every time that I got off of a fat diet that didn't work.

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Like it spiraled me into that.

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So yeah.

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So yeah, indirectly the world has caused my diabetes, like that would

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be the only thing that I would say to that, because there's no way in

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hell that I would sit here and, and ask for this, and I really, I really,

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especially for my type twos, I really don't like that stigma that comes up.

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And even outside of being type two, there's so many different.

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So, if you hear diabetes, you should not assume that one type

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is better or worse than the other.

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It's a variation of it.

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We're dealing with it, we're working through it.

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We're living with it, have some compassion and be a little bit understanding that

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that's just not how you, how you roll up to somebody and say, so, please do

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not believe that because I let that hold me back for about two and a half.

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When I was diagnosed I don't want that to hold you back.

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So being diabetic does not mean that you can enjoy things false.

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You can, and there are plenty of diabetics who thrive and can do anything

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that other people can do, how you do it is just going to be a little bit

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different from others to losing weight is the answer to everything false.

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Diabetes can be diagnosed for plenty of other reasons, besides weight.

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So focus on behaviors, not weight gain.

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The ring being on medication is a bad thing.

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False.

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Your medication is your resource.

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Okay.

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Your medication is your training wheels.

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Your medication is there to support you to get you to a spot.

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If you're able to come off and if you're not, at least it's there to help you.

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I think that's better than not having anything and just kind of flailing and

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not knowing what your body is doing.

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So, it's there to help you optimize your body.

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So that way it can know what it feels like to be at its best.

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And then last.

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Then at least you cause your diabetes absolutely false.

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There are so many factors and there's so much, that's complex about

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diabetes, that to ever think that you caused it yourself is insane.

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So don't fall for the hype.

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Don't let anybody tell you that you're a bad person because of your diagnosis.

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It is simply not.

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So some things to think about are what are some negative thoughts or beliefs

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that you have around your diabetes?

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And I would challenge you to write them down and, and reframe them reframing

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them into something positive, right?

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Whether that's, saying I'm trying to think of an example.

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I'm a bad diabetic.

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If I eat it.

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I am capable of having a cookie and managing my diabetes accordingly,

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something to that effect.

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And there's, there's so many ways you can do it.

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But do that, write that down whenever you feel like those thoughts are creeping

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up, pull out a piece of paper, open up your laptop or whatever, and write

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out those, those thoughts, and then go back and reframe them into something.

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Positive or neutral.

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Cause I don't think that everything has to be like, yeah, go team go.

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Like sometimes it just needs to be a place of neutral understanding.

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But we want to keep, want to keep our heads out of that negative mindset.

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So another one my diabetes is because I'm fat and I eat too much.

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Reframe could be, my diabetes is complex, but by adjusting my behaviors,

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I can manage it in the way that best.

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The frame, everything.

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So that's all I got for today.

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But you know, head over to Instagram and let me know on the show post, cause I

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always do a post on every new episode.

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Let me know what beliefs you're letting go of or that you're reframing.

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I think it's best to.

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Think about and share the things that we are telling ourselves, because

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you'd be surprised of how many other people are thinking it too.

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And we can support each other in not believing those things and, cheering

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each other on to change our behaviors and do things that are positive for us.

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So let me know on the show post, or, you can leave me a comment

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if you're watching the news.

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Or if you are simply listening and you want to head over to apple

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podcast or pod chaser.com, you can leave me a message there as well.

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If you have the time and you don't necessarily want to let me

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know what are some of the beliefs that you're changing and you just

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want to leave a simple review?

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I would appreciate that very, very much.

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It helps the show.

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It helps ensure that I keep bringing up really nice stuff like this for you guys.

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So it would mean the world to me.

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If you could leave me a rating on how I'm doing, if anything that I'm

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talking about is resonating with you, or if you want to hear something

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else you won't hurt my feelings.

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If you give me.

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At all, because that lets me know how I can pivot and shift and

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provide information that's relevant to you, or that makes sense to you.

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Cause I'm just out here talking to my shit the best way I know it, but interaction

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from you guys helps me out a lot.

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So, thank you guys so much for stopping by again and listening to today's episode.

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I think beliefs are such an interesting thing to dive into and understand

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And, I think a big part of it is just community and being able to connect

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with other people and understand the things that they're going through

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and realize you are not alone.

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And there's plenty of us who are dealing with the same things

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and can support you in that.

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So, you guys know me, Taylor, Danielle, feel free to follow my

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personal Instagram if you like, I do more than just this podcast.

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So if you want to see all the things that I'm about.

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Head on over to Instagram, just Taylor, Danielle that's Danielle

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And then of course, follow the show.

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So you always know what's going on.

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So you can leave me those comments on what some beliefs that you're reframing.

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I'm on Facebook, Instagram, and YouTube, if you're watching.

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And then.

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You already know, you can listen to anywhere where you

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can find your favorite podcasts.

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So thank you guys so much for tuning in this round.

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For hindsight thoughts, it's still a thing.

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I know.

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I didn't say it at the beginning.

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All the solo episodes are hindsight thoughts.

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And I'm really excited for this week's guests because speaking of community and

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learning from others, we have the diabetes app coming on to the pod this week.

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So I'm really excited for you to get to sit down with one of their

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founders and learn more about how the app was created and be able to

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connect with others in the community.

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I am on the app myself.

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So it's a really cool space to just learn.

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See others and connect with others and realize that you have so many people

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who are rooting for you and that want to support you and can share their

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tips and insights and experiences as they navigate diabetes themselves.

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So be sure to tune in on Thursday, but until then I

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will catch you guys next time.